Wednesday, October 26, 2016


Frances

by Beth Alexander Walsh


     It was an unseasonably warm October day and I delighted in the incongruence of falling leaves and flip flops as I ran my errands, while keeping track of the time to beat the school bus. I made it home with time to spare and pulled up in front of the garage to unload my groceries. As I juggled the bags and reached for the door, I saw a man’s head pass by the window. At least I thought it was a man’s head. I dropped my bags and stood back, unsure if I had actually seen something and if I should call the police. I pulled my cell phone out of my purse but instead of dialing I reached for the door. I waited for my eyes to adjust to the lack of light and then peered inside. Towards the back of the garage was a sturdy figure, at least six feet tall. My heart raced as I stepped through the doorway and I soon realized the tall figure was a woman! She was wearing elastic waist jeans and a flowered sweatshirt with a polo shirt underneath. Her hair was cropped short, the color of dishwater with grey strands interspersed.  She was mumbling while rocking back and forth in sneakers.

“Can I help you?” I asked.

     She looked at me in confusion and said “It’s not here.” I immediately recognized that confused blank stare. My mother had passed away the previous year from Alzheimer’s and I had been her primary caregiver for five years.

“What is your name?’

“Fran.”

“What is your last name?”

“Fran—Cess.”

“Where do you live Frances?”

    Her silence told me that my question was futile and I studied her face. Sweat was pouring from her forehead and dripping into her eyes and I wondered how far she had walked and how long she had been standing in my garage. I silently chastised the person who not only let her wander off but also dressed her in far too many layers for such a warm day. I told her to stay put and quickly went into the kitchen to grab a bottle of water and some paper towels, and then went back into the garage.

‘How about we step outside and sit on the porch in the shade?”

     I took her hand in mine, marveling at its size while studying the bright shade of pink polish on her nails. I guided her out the door and coaxed her into sitting on my front steps. After blotting her face with the paper towels, I handed her the water, relieved that she knew what to do with it. Then I called 911.

“Hello 911.”

“Hi, I have a woman that wandered into my garage with dementia. She says her name is Frances but she can’t tell me her last…”

     The operator interrupted, confirmed my address and told me an officer would be there in less than five minutes. Apparently, there was a search party for Frances. I asked Frances if she was feeling better. The water was half gone and her cheeks were less flushed. The cruiser pulled into the driveway seconds later, and the officer jumped out.

“Her husband is frantic.” He said.

     I asked him where she lived and was comforted to know it was less than a ten-minute walk away. The officer approached Frances and she recoiled in fear, another emotion I had dealt with in the past.

“Frances, would you like to go home to see your family?” I soothed. 

She did not answer but I could tell she was considering what I was saying.

“This nice man will give you a ride home.”

     I held out my hand and she took it, pushing herself up from the porch step and following me to the cruiser while the officer held open the back door. I helped her into the seat, and handed her the water bottle.

“It was nice meeting you Frances.”

     The officer jumped in the driver’s seat and they were both off without a goodbye.

     Later when I told family and friends my story, they all chastised me for opening that garage door and not dialing 911. I don’t know what made me open that door, but I know that I was never afraid. Immediately after Frances left my driveway I felt my mother’s presence. I knew she had guided Frances to my garage knowing that she would be taken care of, while simultaneously saying hello and thank you to me.

Wednesday, October 19, 2016


Gratitude

by Gail Balentine



With all the negative attitudes and events that we encounter on a daily basis these days, I am grateful for a very positive encounter that happened recently.
            Years ago, when I was managing a surgical nursing unit, a young, bright, eager-to-learn nurse worked for me for about nine months. She was like a human sponge, absorbing all she could, and then asking challenging questions that I tried to answer, with varying levels of success. Throughout my career, I was fortunate to be in positions where helping new nurses learn was part of my job and, with Carol, it was easier than most. There was no question in my mind that she had a great nursing career ahead of her and I enjoyed my time working with her. Our career paths went in different directions, but a gift she gave me when I stopped being her manager sits on my bureau and so I have thought of her over the years, even into my retirement.
            Recently, I stayed with a relative in the pre-surgical area of a local hospital, not the one where I used to work. It was a busy place with all beds filled but the staff were friendly and efficient, explaining everything before they did it. Each member of the surgical team came in, introduced themselves, and asked the many questions necessary before any procedure. I found the changes in how surgical preparations are now done fascinating and tried to absorb everything.
One nurse (women in surgical scrubs and caps really do look different than when they are dressed in out-of-work clothes or even uniforms) recognized the last name on the chart, looked up from where she had been reading, saw me and smiled. I knew that face. She came closer and barely said her first name before I knew exactly who she was. I could feel my own grin spread on my face. I had been right about her future - not only had Carol gone on to gain further experience in larger hospitals, but she had taken the added training required to become a Nurse Anesthetist.  And, best of all for us, she would be in the operating room with my relative! I felt relief gently wash over me like a warm shower. For days I had been listing in my mind the reasons – all valid - to believe that everything would go well, but once I saw her, I knew it would.
            I doubt that Carol realizes the difference her presence made, but I do. I doubt many of us realize the impact we have on others, and they on us, but in today’s world I think that taking the time to appreciate the positive influences or occurrences in our lives is especially important. I thanked her for her generous gift – peace of mind.
                                                                
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Wednesday, October 12, 2016



Autumn Haiku


1.
The wind whinnies, raw.
Dry leaves curl on brown limbs
That reach toward the house.


2.
It is October:
The ocean changes from blue
To steel-grey and cold.


3.
The roses struggle
Their last chance to bloom and shine
Plum, pink, velvet red.


(Ciampa, Liz.  Good for Everyday Use.  Boston, MA: Big Table Publishing Co., 2012. p. 21. Print.)

Wednesday, October 5, 2016


Mailbox

by Lauraine Alberetti Lombara

       
   She stood at the mailbox, staring at the letter addressed to her as if it came from outer space. She saw it was not presort bulk mail and there was no return address.  Walking back to the house that she bought a few years ago, she felt the finish of the envelope.  It was mid-weight, more ivory than white in color, and she supposed it was a bit pricier than common stationery.
              Her life now was her own – simple and frugal – and if asked, she might admit she was lonely at times, but it was her choice.  There were moments she missed: her years as daughter, wife, mother,
friend.  So many of her family and friends were gone now – moved afar, died, relationships finished.  No one had contacted her since she moved.  She was content to be free of obligations.
              This letter was vexing and intriguing at the same time. Should she open it or just toss it away?   It didn’t appear to be a legal document as it was not typed but precisely handwritten in ink, but she did not recognize the script. She wondered if the postmark would provide a clue.  Entering her house, she turned on a bright lamp and donned her readers to discern the date and originating post office location.  Foiled by a blurred postmark, she threw it on the counter. She decided to leave it overnight and make her decision in the morning.